Before joining MDI, I did it alone and competed with other men
in order to look good. After I joined MDI, I began working with
men, towards a common higher purpose. The men help me recognize
my personal barriers and support me to overcome them. My relationships
with women has changed greatly, in that I no longer look at them
as possible prospects. Now I am able to discover what they are
really committed to and am willing to support them in achieving
it. I became a leader in my family. Carefully choosing the direction
I want the family to go and living up to my responsibility in making
it happen for them. My career and relationship to my personal success
has really changed. I now make twice the money doing what I love
and spend half the time doing it. -DC
What I've learned in MDI
The biggest lesson (I've learned) since being in MDI:
- I am a man with many components, ownership comes from ensuring
that I do my best in each side of myself.
- I am never to busy to keep my integrity.
What I get from MDI:
- A place to give back in a huge way.
- A sharpness/edge to live the other parts of my life.
- Support from and to men.
- Living my life in a bigger context.
- Ideas from ordinary men doing extraordinary things.
- A place to bring my frustration/anger.
When I grew up as a child, we never locked our front door. Our
neighbors were our extended family who willingly and selflessly
help each other within a barn raising efforts in our court (??). The
children played out in the front yards and the parents did not
fear that they were unsafe.
Today the community is lost, people lock themselves in their homes. My
children are special needs kids and I want for them a community
of safety that I experienced as a child where my neighbors and
even strangers will look out for them and I can trust that they
are safe.
Doing an initiation event in 1990 and being on a men's team for
15 years hasn't solved all my problems or been the source of all
my joy, or driven me to be successful in my job; it has,
without question, given me back what I thought was lost (1)
in intimate trusting relationships with a broad spectrum of men,
whom I might not otherwise know (2) a place to practice the
long-term discipline of being a man.
I have:
- learned to accept myself as the man I am in relationship with
women.
- bought a house.
- sought out new challenges and succeeded at
them.
- learnt how to seek counsel and mentor other men.
- made a difference to my community.
Not having to do it alone.priceless. Circumstances or other
people are not responsible for where you are in life. It
is up to you to be in action in your life.
Out of my participation in MDI I have learned why God put me on
the Planet Earth. In the midst of my personal struggle to
raise my own family I have a place to live and deliver on the purpose
God put me here to do.
MDI is a place where I practice giving my gift to the world, where
I practice being myself, where I practice hearing and telling the
truth.
A fortune cookie I once got said, "If you continually give, you
will continually get." I learned that if I give while staying
true to my purpose and commitment, my life and the lives of those
around me will continually get better.
Being part of MDI has changed my life in ways I could never imagine. I
have learned to be a leader. I have led teams of men. I
have initiated and led many successful community service events
including visits to children's hospitals, feeding homeless, feeding
AIDS patients etc.
Through my participation here I have become wiling to accept myself
as a man of service to humanity. Accepting that, made it
okay for me to be a powerful leader, successful in life and committed
to other people discovering the same.
Being in MDI has helped me to realize and incorporate my vision
to help those in need of support. Powerful men, leading powerful
existences, provide a standard that our young men can emulate,
our fathers can appreciate, and our women can embrace trust. I
truly believe that the success of our society hinges on the health
and wellbeing of our families.
What this has meant to me and my family has to do with who I am
and how I walk in the world. I am committed to having everyone
I come in contact with be able to live great, fulfilling lives
and I know that if I impact others they will also make the world
better so that my community & family and I can live in greater
peace and harmony.
Being a man in a circle of men, keeps me aligned with the man
I know I can be. As that man I always wanted to be, I have
my family win, my community win, and humanity win.
Being in MDI has helped me achieve so much more in my life than
I could ever have done alone - raised my children, deepened my
relationship with my incredible wife, and helped build a community
of purposeful, courageous people.
The value that I have gotten from MDI is the connection to man
that will help me remain focused on being the successful man that
I am meant to be.
The value I received from being in MDI is that it is okay to be
a masculine man in our society and to be of service to mankind.
What I got: I get the truth about how I appear to others.
MDI - I keep coming back (20 years and counting) because of the
effect it has on my family and the families of all the men involved.
The value I received is an incredible relationship with my son
and more trust and belief in me from my clients and myself.
MDI men will not allow me to pose. They give me the truth
straight from the hip but never to hurt me or make me look like
a fool. These men are the father I never really had.
It allowed me to be more courageous in my life to trust myself
more, take action in my life, and support other men and greater
needs of others.
Speak up and listen to your "gut reaction".
Value gotten from being in MDI:
- A place to belong.
- A place to help others and be of service.
- A place to get called on my ego.
- A place to get what I asked for.
- A place to go to the next level.
- A place to be part of something big.
What I get from MDI and my participation: A place to contribute
and train men to find their abundance.
I am a teacher, an artist, a passionate lover of women and a trainer
of men. I am living a great life and each part and person
I interact with benefits from me as a member of MDI.
What I've gotten around being in a circle of men most importantly
is that my masculine posture is coming back. I've stopped
mind analyzing and take bolder moves in my life, whether at work
or with women.
!!What it felt like!! To hear my wife tell her best girl
friend that she should tell her husband to go to a team meeting
with me and just hang out with an incredible bunch of guys.
What I get from MDI:
Mature, masculine relationships that show me the absolute truth
about me and about everything around me so that I can give back
to my community and win in every aspect of my life.
What my family received as a result of me courageously starting
my own business was a purposeful man driven to provide for his
family with a smile on his face. There is no more family
time spent complaining about my job.
Being in MDI gives me that one day a week to get what I need to
give my best to the other six.
MDI - Place to give, get support, stretch, try new things.
What I get out of MDI is a constant source of learning how to
improve as a man.
Value I have gotten:
- Knowing what my job is as a man.
- Learned how to be an effective father.
- I am not alone.
- I have wisdom - strength - commitment - love - courage.
Since I have joined MDI I have been given a place to lead and
give back to my community.
